Ever felt overwhelmed?
Ever felt overwhelmed?
Struggled to know what to do?
At a loss for where and how to even start?
If so, then I’m in great company because I have—and often still do.
The truth is stress will never go away. As sure as the sun rises and sets, so will stress remain a constant in our lives. It sucks. But it’s true.
Thankfully, though, we don’t have to allow stress to mess with us. We may not be able to eliminate it entirely. But we can mitigate and minimize it.
We can craft ways to better cope with stress in the moment. And we can also plan in advance for how to best affect positive, immediate, and long-term change.
We’ve all experienced that “deer in the headlights” moment when stress absolutely freezes us up. This may be our first reaction, but thankfully our actions needn’t stop there.
The next time stress threatens to stop you, just think, “Oh, SNAP!”
STOP! Stop your brain. No matter what they are, stop the all the thoughts jumping around inside of your head.
NOTHING BUT NICE You’ve likely been put on the spot in some way, shape, or form. That’s not a good feeling and it carefully constructed response takes time. So show yourself some grace. Allow only positive, constructive self-talk.
ALL THAT YOU KNOW You know a lot. It may just not feel like it right now. Refuse to let stress push you into believing you’re not capable. You are. Take a moment to remember and appreciate this.
PUT IT TO USE Stress may have you stuck momentarily. But you’re capable of moving forward. Take all that you know—including how you can gain any additional help—and put it to use to make progress.
We all want to stress less—myself included. But it wasn’t until I changed my perspective that I was actually able to affect change.
Here’s how I’ve come to mitigate stress successfully and ultimate stress LESS…
LEVEL Rate your level of stress. Use any kind of rating system that’s comfortable for your. But rate it, so that you can track the changes of your relationship with stress over time.
ENVIRONMENT Carefully consider what caused you to feel stress. Who were you with? What was happening? Where were you and why?
STATE how do you feel. Describe it. Be specific. Other feelings such as fear, shame, and grief can often masquerade as stress. When this is the case, sorting through your real feelings can often alleviate any lingering stress as well.
SORT through all your options. What can you do next to move forward in a positive, pragmatic way? Could you react differently in the moment next time? If so, how?